When it comes to traits that are strongly correlated to good psychological health and overall well-being, one of the most influential is self-esteem.
High self-esteem is strongly correlated with better outcomes in relationships, school, work, mental health, physical health, and a reduction in antisocial behavior. Yet, despite its proven benefits, there has been much debate over the years about the best ways to support teens and adults to improve their self-esteem.
In this article, we’ll give a brief overview of what coaches, counselors, and therapists need to know about self-esteem. Then, cover a range of self-esteem worksheets and activities that can be used with clients.
Self-esteem can be defined as:
“An individual’s subjective evaluation of his or her worth as a person.”
The ways high or low self-esteem might show up in individuals can vary. So to give you an idea of what to look for in clients, we’ve listed a few examples below.
|Signs of High Self-Esteem||Indicators of Low Self-Esteem|
|A person appreciates themselves and others||Negative image of self and other people|
|Handles criticism without taking it personally||Finds any form of criticism very upsetting|
|Open to taking risks and accepting failure||Cautious about trying new things due to fear|
|Lives life according to clear personal values||Lacking a sense of direction and meaning|
|Sustains healthy and respectful relationships||Poor boundaries and communication skills|
|Good personal problem-solving skills||Has difficulty navigating life challenges|
How are Narcissism and Self-Esteem Related?
Self-esteem boosting activities have been criticized in the past for encouraging narcissism. But recent research indicates that the two concepts are quite different.
“Narcissism is a personality trait characterized by a sense of superiority and a desire for respect and admiration from others.” While self-esteem is based on an internal feeling of worthiness that’s not dependent on superiority or external approval.
This means that as long as self-esteem activities in therapy and coaching are focused on cultivating internal self-worth, coaches and therapists need not worry that they are promoting narcissism in clients.
Importance of Worksheets for Self-Esteem
Self-esteem boosting activities have successfully been used in traditional therapy and coaching settings for decades. Considering the personal nature of the topic, 1:1 work is often undertaken in combination with self-esteem worksheets for teens and adults.
With the increasing trend toward online therapy, evidence has emerged that even all-digital app-based approaches can be effective in helping people with changing personality traits, like self-esteem.
This suggests that platforms like Quenza—which streamlines the use of a wide variety of electronic worksheets—can be effectively utilized by practitioners of all backgrounds to deliver high-quality self-esteem boosting programs.
To give you an idea of how that might look in your practice, here’s an overview of our 6 favorite self-esteem worksheets.
Self-Esteem Worksheets for Teens (+ Printable PDF)
Adolescence is often identified as an ideal time to work on self-esteem.
During the teen years, the steady increase in self-esteem typically seen during childhood can start to plateau, or even reduce. But interestingly, research shows that teens are generally more responsive than other age groups to self-esteem boosting activities.
Here are 2 self-esteem boosting worksheets that are ideal to use as therapy activities for teens of any age.
Creating a Positive Body Image
Poor body image in teens is a risk factor for low self-esteem. And it’s also associated with mental health conditions like depression and disordered eating.
In the Quenza app, we have an activity to help teens create a positive body image that pairs an educational video with 5 downloadable and printable self-esteem worksheets in PDF.
The activity starts with a video, explaining the benefits of considering your body in the context of its many useful and amazing functions, not just focusing on appearance.
Once this concept has been introduced, users are automatically sent 5 self-esteem worksheets for teens over the following weeks.
Here are some screenshots from the first worksheet, titled “What Can Your Body Do?”
Learning to Say “No”
Adolescents with low self-esteem tend to struggle with saying “No” to peer pressure more than those with a higher sense of self-worth. This can place teens in challenging, sometimes even dangerous situations. They may end up making choices that go against their values out of a desire to fit in or not disappoint their friends.
We teach teens how to say “No” in Quenza with a seven-step expansion based on self-esteem therapy worksheets. A customizable, pre-made template of the worksheets is available in Quenza’s Expansion library. And you can get full access right now with a $1 Quenza trial.
The 7 steps in the Learning to Say “No” Expansion are:
- Tapping into your values
- Separate the request from your relationship
- Say no without saying the word “no”
- Focus on what you will gain by saying “no
- Recognize the personal cost of saying “yes”
- Opt for being respected over being popular
- Be clear rather than vague and non-committal
Here’s the introduction for the Learning to Say “No” self-esteem exercises for youth.
And part of the worksheet for step 5.
Self-Love Building Worksheets: Middle Schoolers & Elementary Students
In middle schoolers and elementary students, high-self esteem is linked to better interpersonal relationships, improved coping skills, and greater academic achievement.
However, the challenge with delivering self-esteem activities for middle schoolers is making them adaptable for multiple age groups.
Perhaps the most flexible self-esteem activities for elementary students and middle schoolers are self-love sentence stems.
Self-Love Sentence Stems
Self-love sentence stems are great because the prompts and instructions you give to children can be adjusted to different age groups.
For example, with younger children, you might do the activity verbally, guided by self-love worksheets PDFs, like this.
Or with older children who are confident in writing, you can ask them to write out sentence stems independently, from a printable self-esteem worksheets PDF, as detailed below.
CBT Self-Esteem Activities for Adults
CBT worksheets for adults can be useful for managing a variety of cognitive distortions that might lead to feelings of low self-worth.
Some examples of cognitive distortions covered in the Quenza activity library include labeling, magnification and minimization, all-or-nothing thinking, fortune telling, and many more.
Let’s take a look at the labeling Activity in the app.
Unhelpful Thinking Styles – Labeling
Many people with low-self esteem ascribe negative labels to themselves, like fat, unintelligent, undisciplined, or even unlucky.
To help unwind some of these unhelpful thinking styles, we begin with an overview of the cognitive distortion.
Followed by self-esteem worksheets for adults that clients can use independently, or with a therapist or coach.
2 Exercises for Boosting Self-Esteem In Therapy
Low self-esteem has been linked to mental health challenges as diverse as depression, eating disorders, anxiety, and substance abuse. So it’s no surprise that self-esteem activities in therapy are often recommended as a “broad-spectrum approach for mental health promotion.”
Two issues related to self-esteem that can successfully be addressed in therapy are personal values and acceptance.
Here are some self-esteem therapy worksheets for each topic.
Values Vision Board
When people know what’s important to them and live their life accordingly—they tend to have a stronger sense of self-worth and self-esteem.
A values vision board is a great way to help clients gain clarity around their values, so they can start living a more aligned life.
The activity starts with an explanation of why values are important.
Followed by practical instructions on putting together a vision board.
And finishing with self-esteem building worksheets that help people clarify their values, and explore how they might be able to live more in line with them.
The Acceptance of Avoidance Route
Unfortunately, making life changes based on personal values can often be incredibly difficult—especially for someone who’s been living out of alignment for some time.
For example, you could have a client who decides they need to quit their job, break up with a partner, or move overseas because of their new-found values. These are all big, scary changes!
A great way to support clients through this process is by exploring the concepts of acceptance, avoidance, and fear.
Here are some self-esteem therapy worksheets on both topics in your practice right now, all of which you can access with a $1 Quenza trial.
Printable Self-Esteem Worksheets (PDF)
Building A Self-Confidence Improvement Program: 5 Steps
Without a healthy sense of self-confidence, people will have difficulty taking action and achieving goals. And over time, missed growth opportunities can lead to a poor sense of self-worth.
Self-confidence comes from a combination of knowing and doing. So to develop an effective confidence coaching program—it’s important to encompass both theoretical and practical elements.
Quenza enables coaches and therapists to easily create custom-built self-confidence improvement programs with our innovative Pathways system.
A Pathway is a collection of activities (like the ones we’ve discussed in this article), which are given to a client to work on a particular issue.
So, to help a client build self-confidence, you could prescribe a 5 step pathway including:
When you group a collection of activities like these together in the Quenza app, you can send it to a client and it will show up in the “Pathways” section of their dashboard.
Self-esteem is one of the most beneficial psychological traits a person can possess. It can impact work, relationships, goal attainment, mental health, academic achievement, and much more.
Because self-esteem spans a number of domains, it can be difficult for coaches and therapists to cover everything clients need to know in 1:1 sessions. For that reason, many practitioners use self-esteem worksheets alongside individual work, or sometimes even as a standalone program.
Quenza contains dozens of ready-to-use self-esteem worksheets that you can share seamlessly with clients. Each one is customizable, and you can even package them together in sequence as a tailor-made pathway designed specifically for your client’s needs.
To see how Quenza can help you work with clients with self-esteem issues today, sign up for a one-month full-access trial of the Quenza app for only $1.
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